Mahmoud Fasfos
Resigning from Yourself — Mahmoud Shaaban Fasfous

From the author of The Blind Manager

Resigning from Yourself

The Psychology of What We Don’t See

When did being absent from your own life become normal?

Mahmoud Shaaban Fasfous

When did being absent from your own life
become normal?

You keep a promise you made to someone else, and put off the one you made to yourself. You know what you should do, then find a convincing reason to delay it.

Mahmoud Shaaban Fasfous traces the small tricks by which we slip out of our own lives: procrastination and rationalization, fear of how others see us, and distractions that pull us away from what truly matters.

This book draws on scenes from everyday life, ideas from psychology, and words much older than psychology that illuminate those ideas from another angle. It opens the door to understanding what we fail to see in ourselves—and doing something about it.

Five parts, nineteen chapters,
and tools that begin with a step you can try today.

Mahmoud Shaaban Fasfous
Author of The Blind Manager

Contents

  1. IntroductionHow Many Times Have You Started Again?
  2. Part One · Promises on Water
  3. Chapter OneThe Fifth AlarmWhy do you keep promises to others and break them to yourself?
  4. Chapter TwoWillpower Is Not the Hero of This StoryWhy do people with habits succeed while people with determination struggle?
  5. Chapter Three“Just This Once…”How can that first step undermine everything you’ve built?
  6. Chapter FourThe Notebook We Never OpenWhy do we keep track of everything except ourselves?
  7. Part Two · When We Gently Deceive Ourselves
  8. Chapter FiveMy Friend “Tomorrow”Why do we put off what we know matters?
  9. Chapter SixThe Lawyer in Your HeadHow do we talk ourselves into anything?
  10. Chapter SevenDessert After the SaladWhy do we reward a good deed with a small misstep?
  11. Chapter EightI Inherited It. I Never Chose It.Are your beliefs yours… or your father’s?
  12. Part Three · What We Tell No One
  13. Chapter NineThe Voice That Scolds You Every NightWhy doesn’t being hard on ourselves make us better?
  14. Chapter TenThe Word You Can’t Take BackHow do you stop yourself before you lose something irreplaceable?
  15. Chapter ElevenGuests We Never InvitedWhy do frightening thoughts cross your mind without saying anything about you?
  16. Chapter Twelve“If”… The Word That Steals Your SleepHow do you let go of what you can’t control?
  17. Part Four · The Faces We Wear
  18. Chapter ThirteenBetween the Window and the StageHow can comparison turn from a thief into a teacher? And how many likes are you worth?
  19. Chapter FourteenBetter Off Than King LouisWhy don’t we see what we have?
  20. Chapter FifteenThe Exception You Granted YourselfDo other people’s rights change when your argument changes?
  21. Chapter SixteenWhen He Speaks in Heaven’s NameWhy do some people seeking power cloak themselves in religion?
  22. Part Five · Again
  23. Chapter SeventeenThirty Days of Light… Then What?Why doesn’t change last after Ramadan?
  24. Chapter EighteenHalf PresentHow did screens take away our ability to be here?
  25. Chapter NineteenGet Up… Even for the Hundredth TimeHow do you return after a stumble?
  26. ConclusionThe Alarm That Rings Five Times
  27. Appendices

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